Sometimes people get very annoyed by aspects of their partner ⦠They may also be able to help you to learn to manage the feelings you may have about your partnerâs behaviors. Acceptance is another facet of serving love. I am what I am. I know that this is a revolutionary idea, but within this suggestion lays the seeds of peace and harmony. Here are seven steps to acceptance: 1. You didnât marry a clone of yourself! I see so many people talk about being the breadwinner, or the SAHM. Accept your partner for who they are. The glue to any successful marriage would be to accept your husband or wife as he/she is. Accept their flaws. If you are having difficulty accepting your partner for who they, consider consulting with a therapist. When you start to get frustrated with your spouse check in with your thoughts. Or if your spouse stays at home do you feel you accept the fact your spouse might not like or be the best house keeper or cook? Accept the things you cannot change. For instance, if you've learned throughout the years that your partner has a habit of being late, accept it. Here are some tips for becoming more accepting. You are the very last person who is going to change your husband or wife. And it can help you accept yourself for who you are at the same time. Accept that you cannot fix your partner. And so, the #1 thing spouses can do to build healthy, lasting marriage, is to love and accept your spouse the way they are. Accept that just because they don't behave like you, it doesn't make them wrong. Jan. 29, 2017. Indeed, research shows that nearly 70% of marital conflicts are perpetual and unresolvable â they last a coupleâs whole life through. What you see is what you get, nothing more, nothing less. Accept that your partner is not perfect. You serve your spouse by how you accept your spouse at every ⦠Wanting your spouse to change is like asking a cat to bark. Accept that not everyone will behave as you do. I had to love him flaws and all, the same way he loved me. A professional may be able to help you learn how to accept a situation. Do not choose only one part, take me as I am, whole and such as I am, so you donât make any mistakes. The only alternative to the typically fruitless hope of getting oneâs partner to change, is to simply accept that theyâre never going to. Let me add a disclaimer: Throughout the remainder of this article, I am not talking about accepting abusive, dangerous behavior. You Have To Accept Your Partner's Flaws In A Relationship. In a relationship, it means accepting your partner for who they are. To accept their idiosyncrasies as a part of their, and your, life. By Sandra Rose. Essentially, accepting your partner for who and what they are is a choice that frees you both to enjoy each other fully and feel good about yourselves. ... One of the girls has been dating a guy for a while, but now all they ever do is fight. Síguenos / Follow us! 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